I didn't want to hijack, as that comment was not at all germane to the discussion at hand, and my comment on the comment would have been even less germane. But it struck a chord for me nonetheless.
We've got the Oprahs and the Cosmopolitans and the intermawebs shouting from the rooftops that women shouldn't settle for just any man. They should have high (unachievably high, sometimes) standards, and hold out for the guy that meets those standards. Doing otherwise is unhealthy, and not respecting herself. It also means she's not getting laid, but anyway.
So, women aren't jumping into relationships, and it's healthy to be on your own, learn to love yourself, learn to enjoy your own company, etc etc. Good, great.
We also know that, even now, in 2007, women running out to get laid 4 or 5 times a week without any sort of relationship are still sluts. We might not like it, we might not agree with it personally (i know i don't, but these boards are evidence that many do), but it doesn't change the fact that it is the public perception. Factor in the "used/damaged goods" philosophy that both men and women share (you've all heard the town pump jokes), and it's virtually impossible for a woman to be viewed as healthy if she chooses to get her 4 or 5 weekly orgasms outside the confines of a relationship.
Ok. Right then. So how, exactly, does she get those orgasms? She can't get them in a relationship unless it's on par with what the collective views as "worthy of her", she can't get them outside of a relationship, because that'd make her a slut, she can't prostitute, because not only is that illegal, but she'd be patently unhealthy if she actually got off on renting her sex bits (i'm just the messenger, folks), and she can't go without, because we already covered that she needs that 4 or 5 quota to be healthy.
Masturbation is the only alternative, i guess? Are we going to stop making fun of women and their need for batteries, then?
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